No Divas Allowed! Do You Have a Diva or a Diva in the Making?



Do you have a diva or diva in the making?

Here are some signs that your pint-sized or teen-sized dancer is a diva:


#1 They lack empathy for others and just care about their own world.

#2 They believe that they are entitled to get what they want and be demanding.

#3 They are over-reactive when things don’t go their way or they receive feedback, correction, or criticism.


Now, why do these pint-size and even teen-sized divas act the way they do? And how can you fix this? Really it is not too late at any age.


Teaching Empathy:

Brattiness is a symptom of selfishness and entitlement. Kids who believe that they are entitled to everything, never learn how to be grateful and appreciate the things that they have. They always want more material things or attention, and will react in a negative manner if they don’t get them.


Allow Your Children More Responsibilities:

They may whine and demand you do things for them that they are completely capable of doing. Be positive and encourage them to do things on their own like packing their dance bag, packing snacks for dance classes, and getting ready in time to be out the door early for their class.


Do Not Accept Rude Words or Rude Behaviors:

Kids are naturally self-centered, so they need to be taught how to be respectful, appreciative, and considerate. When they say something rude like “get this or do that” you call out the behavior saying “that’s rude” and you don’t accept their demand. At the start of re-training your diva brat, you can give them one chance to repeat their request respectfully. One mom uses the word “Rewind” as the cue that they have one chance to do it again. If your child chooses not to talk respectfully, your ears cannot hear what they are saying and you walk away.


Give Clear Instructions That Don’t Invite Negotiation:

Do not ask your kids if they will do things. “Will you please empty the trash?” is replaced with “Empty the trash please.” You are not being rude; You are just being clear with your request. Talk in requests instead of making it a question you never intended it to be a choice.


Give Your Children Positive Feedback and Compliments:

Children crave attention at all ages from toddler to teen. To them it doesn’t matter if it is positive or negative. So many parents are so busy these days that they sometimes most often communicate with their kids in a corrective manner when they have done something wrong or that they do not like. Negative begets more negative.

Focus on telling your child 3 positive things a day about them, their personality, or a good behavior you witnessed. Be very specific so it does not like a lack luster effort and something you “should do” as a parent.  Also, bonus points if you talk positively about your child to other people and your child is within range to hear such things. Fill up their love and positivity reservoir every day.